{"id":906,"date":"2020-05-05T08:38:05","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T12:38:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/?p=906"},"modified":"2020-10-12T20:33:20","modified_gmt":"2020-10-13T00:33:20","slug":"how-well-do-you-bounce-understanding-resilience-self-care-in-order-to-thrive-part-2-adapting-a-growth-mindset","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/how-well-do-you-bounce-understanding-resilience-self-care-in-order-to-thrive-part-2-adapting-a-growth-mindset\/","title":{"rendered":"How Well Do You Bounce? Part 2: Adapting a Growth Mindset"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"content-kpbckground\"><span class=\"\" style=\"display:block;clear:both;height: 0px;padding-top: 10px;border-top-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">How Well Do You Bounce?<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Part 2: Adapting a Growth Mindset<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Kristine Proctor, MSW, LCSW<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<span class=\"\" style=\"display:block;clear:both;height: 0px;padding-top: 10px;border-top-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;\"><\/span>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\"><a title=\"How Well Do You Bounce? Understanding Resilience &amp; Self-Care in Order to Thrive!\" href=\"http:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/817\/\">In part 1 of this series<\/a>, we affirmed the fact that while we all approach life with great expectations &#8211; And we should! \u2013 There are times we need to deepen our understanding of ourselves in order to be successful personally and relationally. In other words, we need emotional wellbeing to thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">We learned the importance of knowing how to identify stress in our lives, some of the indicators that we are stressed and that tracking our emotional responses is a healthy way to enable us to respond with intention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">One of the ways to increase our coping capacity is to develop our resilience, defined as the ability to recover quickly from difficulty. We looked at characteristics of individuals who have the ability to bounce back from adversity in order to give ourselves a benchmark for our own level of resilience. We asked ourselves, \u201cHow well do I bounce?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">One strength we can develop or improve to be more resilient is to\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino; color: #ffffff;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Adapt a growth<\/strong> <strong>mindset.<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">In this context this means thinking of yourself and your coping skills as something that can be developed rather than fixed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Teach yourself to expect that your journey will have twists and turns. Expect that life will not be a linear process. Expect that there will be hard things and you\u2019ll need to dig in and apply tenacity, sometimes a little and sometimes a whole lot! Expect that you will handle what comes the best that you can and that you will grow from the experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Self-talk is a powerful tool in shifting into a growth mindset. This does not mean that you need to start having conversations with yourself! What it does mean is that you can develop your ability to be your own coach or cheerleader when it comes to reframing the experiences you have from negative to positive. Pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs. You can tell yourself, either quietly in your head or aloud, what you need to hear. One example might be, \u201cThis is a really tough situation. I am doing the best I can, and that is good enough.\u201d Or, \u201cI really wasn\u2019t expecting that! I\u2019ll know to watch for that the next time.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Additionally, acknowledge and embrace your imperfections. Be real and attempt to value authenticity and growth more than being right. Commit to developing your strengths further and improving the weaker areas over time. You are unique and there is no one like you! That includes the lessons you\u2019re learning and the <strong><em>way<\/em><\/strong> you handle life, not just your successes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">One way to help shift into a growth mindset is to partialize. This means to break down what you see or feel into smaller chunks and deal with them one at a time. This decreases your level of frustration and overwhelm and makes what needs to happen manageable.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Another piece of the resilience puzzle is to set realistic goals. Work to accept what you cannot change. Set your own expectations and seek to fulfill them rather than using your emotional energy on whether or not you are pleasing someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">As you know yourself better, you will be more equipped to find your sense of purpose. Remember, resilient people have a sense of independence and self-worth and intentionally form and maintain positive, mutually respectful relationships. These support what they know to be true about themselves. And overall, because they know their sense of purpose, they can live out of that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Paying attention to what your passions and strengths are and what gives you life, will guide you in knowing where you prefer to focus your energy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Eleanor Roosevelt said, \u201cPeople grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.\u201d Knowing yourself better helps you to recognize where your strengths are. It enables you to recognize that you do have it in you to lean into life\u2019s challenges and to bounce back. Let\u2019s go grow!<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: Book Antiqua,Palatino;\">Find yourself, and be that!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-915 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Kristine4BLOGsigTransp552020Use-300x64.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"64\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Kristine4BLOGsigTransp552020Use-300x64.png 300w, https:\/\/kristineproctorcounselingdeland.com\/counselordeland\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Kristine4BLOGsigTransp552020Use.png 347w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<span class=\"\" style=\"display:block;clear:both;height: 0px;padding-top: 30px;border-top-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;\"><\/span>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How Well Do You Bounce? 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